For a while, you have enjoyed a lovely relationship where both you and your ex enjoyed an amazing bond with one another, and you shared so many special moments. Then things began to get rocky, you started fighting all of the time, couldn’t see eye to eye, and communication was almost nonexistent. Finally the relationship dissolved and now here you sit with a broken heart, wondering how you can get your ex back. While getting your ex back can be an immensely difficult task, it is possible if you follow these top 5 ways to get your ex back.
You Must Be Confident
If you show your ex that you are weak, and you cling worse than cling film, you will push your ex further away from you. Clinging to your ex, begging and pleading he or she to come back to you will be quite repulsive because it will give the impression that you are pressed and obsessed. What you need to do is show your ex, as well as others and yourself that you can confidently stand on your own and conquer trials. If you need to cry, yell, or act out, do it in private where others cannot see you.
Cut Off Communication
While cutting off communication may seem counterproductive, it is actually the best thing you can do in this instance. There is a really good reason that things have made it to where they are, and both of you need to take a break from one another in order to reflect on matters and clear your minds. Not to mention, time apart from one another will possibly remind your ex about the value of you and your relationship.
If you feel like getting back at your ex by giving him demands, such as “You had better come and get your stuff out of my house.” or “You had better come pay this bill or else.” It is important that you do not. Giving such demands will not scare your ex in getting back with you, as you probably hope they will; rather, these demands will push your ex further away from you, making him or her never want to get back with you. Of course, this is not what you want. So, what you must do is fight against every urge to give such demands, and be patient and flexible. Your ex will pick up his or her possessions or meet any of your other demands in due time.
Have Fun and Socialize
Now is not the time to sit and mope around, thinking about what things could and should have been. You need to call up your friends, plan some activities and get out. Socializing is healthy, and it will take your mind off your ex for a bit. In addition, socializing will enable you to realize who you really and truly are, as well as provide you with some new and interesting stories to tell your ex when you two get back together.
Do Not Be Fake
Trying to be fake and put up a front before your ex is the worst thing you can do. Your ex will see through this front, and it will be a complete and total turn-off. What you need to do is be genuine and be yourself. After all, it was the true you that attracted your ex in the first place. Try to think back and reflect on the qualities that first attracted your ex. When you have identified what these qualities are, work hard to manifest these qualities in yourself. Once you do this, your good qualities will not only rub off on others around you, it will eventually rub off on your ex also.
It is not easy to get your ex back; however, following the above 5 ways to get your ex back will enable you to be successful in this regard. Apply these principles consistently and maintain patience, and sooner than later, your relationship will be just as it was when you both first met. Should you become discouraged at any time during this process, just remember to keep your eye on the prize. After all, if you absolutely love your ex, it will be well worth it.