And the Day Came When the Risk to Remain Tight in a Bud Was Greater Than the Risk it Took to Blossom

Recently, I was watching a training video by Ezine Queen and Online Marketer, Ali Brown. One of the things she said struck. She said (and I’m paraphrasing here): When you step out in any way, it’s not a matter of IF people are not going to like you, it’s a matter of WHEN. There will ALWAYS be someone who is a harsh critic, for whatever reason. The sooner you get used to the fact that it’s part of the game, and learn to move forward anyway, the better off you will be.

It’s worth the exploration.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in the bud was greater than the risk it took to blossom.” ~ Anais Nin

Sometimes it takes a lot of courage to be who you are. But there comes a time when there is no choice other than to just claim yourself and come out from hiding.

This is not always the easiest choice, but it IS the most courageous.

Part of owning your potential, is giving it permission to thrive. I never knew I could write until I read my pieces out loud. I never knew I was an artist until I sold my first painting. I never knew I could act until I took my first acting class. I never knew I could design a product, get it manufactured and garner interest from a national chain, until I did. You get the picture. I live by Martha Grimes saying “We don’t know who we are until we see what we can do.”

But we never find out if we don’t get in the game.

So, why keep playing it safe? Whatever you are doing, you already know you can do. Why not expand a little bit, and claim more of yourself? You don’t have to go full out.

Just go.

When I went to audit my first acting class, my heart was pounding with fear just watching what people were doing. I thought, I could never do that! But, I gave her the check anyway, and a year later found myself on stage doing a Neil Simon monologue in a southern accent.

Go figure.

There is only one reason we are not willing to step out and that is fear of the unknown: Fear of making a fool of ourselves, fear of not doing it right, fear of getting it wrong, fear of getting rejected, fear of being “found out”, fear of failing, fear of succeeding. Fear, fear and more fear.

And that’s what I love about what Ali Brown was saying. Essentially, she tells us to expect it to happen – getting it wrong, making a fool of yourself, failing, succeeding, making mistakes, being judged, being accepted, being rejected.

I know all of it has happened to me (on several occasions, sad to say).

But with all of that, you see, you’re still in the game.

Consider it the price of admission. Scuff marks on your shoes. But once they’re all broken in, and contoured to your feet, they’re the most comfortable shoes to walk in. And isn’t that what we all want? To feel comfortable walking in our own shoes?

I’m reading Richard Branson’s biography called Losing my Virginity: How I Survived, Had Fun, and Made a Fortune Doing Business My Way (my kind of peeps). He is the success behind Virgin Records, Virgin Airlines, Virgin Money (and a whole lot of “Virgin”). The man is a maverick.

But the one thing that is clear about him is that from the very beginning he simply made a decision to get comfortable with the discomfort. And then, he went for it.

Over and over and over again.

We can too, but it begins with a decision. Everything begins with a decision.

So, decide. Is there really any more time left to keep playing it safe?

This week: take the risk. Decide to step out in a new way. Decide to be bold. Decide to get comfortable with the discomfort and do it anyway. And grow yourself.

In other words, no more tight buds. Get in the game and go big blossoms. Big Blossoms. Stand Out.

BOLA TANGKAS