Filipinos make a big deal out of weddings. It’s deemed as a grand event as it is seen as not only as a union of two persons but also a union of two families. Filipinos place a very high importance on marriages and the country, being a predominantly Catholic nation, places a high moral value on couples being wed in Church before living together as husband and wife.
Living in the Philippines, most especially loving a Filipina, will most likely ensure that you need to follow traditions towards seeking her hand in marriage. Philippine culture shows Filipino children have a lot of respect, love and obedience towards their parents. This is the reason why parents are very much involved during wedding planning.
Here are some Filipino wedding traditions:Pamamanhikan (Marriage proposal). The groom, together with his parents, is expected to seek the bride’s hand in marriage by way of proposing not only to her but to her parents as well. The groom asks the bride’s hand in marriage by asking permission from her parents.Pa-Alam (Marriage announcement). Once the bride’s parents agree to the wedding, the wedding is announced to relatives and important people to the family (usually those they intend to make godparents) by way of personally visiting their homes and letting them know about their plans of getting married. Modern Filipino weddings usually intersperse this by delivering the wedding invitations personally.Despedida de Soltera (Farewell to Single Life). While modern culture has bachelor and bridal parties/showers, Filipino parents usually hold a formal dinner for their daughter as a formal farewell to single life. This is usually celebrated near the wedding.Wedding traditions. Filipinos have many superstitions when it comes to weddings. The groom seeing the bride in her wedding dress is considered bad luck and that the bride shouldn’t wear her complete gown before the wedding. Part of the offering during the wedding must include salt, rice and sugar and that instead of showing them with flowers during their recessional walk, uncooked rice will be showered to signify a prosperous life together.Wedding receptions. Filipinos celebrate grandly and wedding receptions are no exceptions. Similar to fiestas, Filipinos love food and even distant relatives need to be invited to the wedding to ensure familial harmony. Other traditions:
Filipino families consider it bad luck to have siblings get married in one calendar year, calling it “sukob”. This is the reason why most siblings get married a year after another one in the family settles down.