In learning how to get back together with your ex-girlfriend, you’ll gain a better knowledge of how she thinks. But before you start on the road to reconciliation, you need to do a quick self-examination first. There are three basic questions you need to ask yourself before you can make your ex want you again. You’ll need to answer them honestly, too. The sooner you do this, the better your chances of dating your ex. Let’s get started:
Question 1: Do You Really Want Her Back? – Seems silly, doesn’t it? But most guys don’t even ask this question. They’re so hellbent on reversing the rejection they currently feel they don’t even stop to examine whether or not the relationship is worth it in the first place. If your girlfriend broke up with you, there was probably a good reason. Maybe you’re not compatible. Maybe you fight too much, over too little things, and for far too long. Really examine your relationship – and not just the beginning of your romance when everything was fantastic, but the later parts where you’d been around each other for a while. Was it fun for you? Or was it work? Do you really want to get back with your ex-girlfriend… or is she filling a void in your life that could be just as easily filled by virtually anyone?
And hey, maybe you’re not as happy as you thought you were? That’s always possible. Answering these questions can be difficult, but if you decide you do love and want to win your ex back… good. Time to move on.
Question 2: What Caused Your Break Up? – There’s really no use getting your ex to come back to you if you’re only going to break up again for the same stupid reasons. You need to stop and take an in-depth look at your relationship… and try to examine it not only from your perspective, but from hers too.
Do you know why your ex broke up with you? The reasons might be different than the ones she gave you. One of the most common reasons a girl leaves her boyfriend is because she feels she’s not getting enough attention. Guys don’t often realize they’re not giving their girlfriends as much as they need. If you’ve been taking your relationship for granted, it could be one of the main reasons it ended. Put yourself in her shoes and try to examine yourself through her eyes – you might see a few things differently.
Knowing what caused your break up will be instrumental in winning your girlfriend back. If you can correct the mistakes you’ve been making, and show her that you’ve acknowledged them, she’ll be a lot more open to thoughts of renewing your relationship.
Question 3: Does She Deserve To Have You Back? – Yup, you heard me right. Is this girl you’re pining over really worth fighting for? Is she truly something special, or have you just put her up so high on a pedestal it’s impossible to see her for who she is? Many times, a one-sided relationship ends up becoming unhealthy – with one partner glorifying the other. This can lead to ego trips and abusive behavior on the part of the person “in charge”. Did this happen in your own relationship? Were you constantly chasing and wooing this girl even though you were already dating her?
The best relationships demand equal respect, with both partners happy for each other’s success. A 50/50 relationship is a very rare thing, which is why if you’ve got one that’s close to this figure you should definitely hang on to it. If you and your ex both love and respect each other in equal parts, you’ve got a good shot of getting back together. Acknowledge this, and use it as a tool to make her understand when you’re finally communicating with her again post-break up.