Your Life Will Reflect In Your Game.
Just as you can’t separate the mind/body connection you are also very likely to perform in a manner on the course that is congruent with what is going on in your life at the time. If you are having trouble off the course then you are going to be very distracted and “out of sorts” on the course, this will reflect in your golf scores.
Golf is played best when the individual is happy and relaxed. If you are experiencing troubles at home or work and are able to completely bury them when stepping onto the golf course then you have a mental toughness better than most. Clearly we are talking about significant interferences here and not every day or minor annoyances.
Not even professional players are able to escape the effects of disruption away from the tournaments adversely affecting their game. Considering that the average amateur has nowhere near the same level of expertise and training as a professional player then expecting an amateur to play well while under pressure at home or work is completely unrealistic.
One exception to this rule that I have noticed is when a close friend or relative has passed away. Sometimes the player can perform very well, but this has to do with the fact that they are more focussed because they are doing it for someone, playing for their memory, in honor of them.
As a rule what is going on in your life will T off with you on the golf course. While there certainly are interventions that you can employ to help with your on course performance when you are in a period of turmoil, nothing is going to be better than resolving the situation that is problematic off the course.
Here are a couple things you can try that may well help in the short term while you resolve your life challenges.
Tip Number 1
Have a look at the performance psychology of NLP. Neuro Linguistic Programming. There are several techniques that you can quickly learn and employ to help your performance both on and off the golf course. In particular on the course would be the use of “Anchoring” techniques which can help you to get into and maintain a resourceful state while playing. In addition and by way of a bonus, NLP offers some fantastic interventions and help in resolving the challenges you may be experiencing off course.
Tip Number 2
Cut yourself infinite amounts of slack. Simple as this may seem it works really well even when you aren’t experiencing life distractions. Just allow yourself to mess up without getting annoyed and even more critical of yourself. If you are distracted and tense before you T off and then get cross because you don’t seem to be playing as well l as you should this will only add to the feelings of frustration and add to your anxiety and physical tension, thus increasing the likely hood of you messing up even more. A disastrous spiraling dive. Give yourself some space and don’t put any limits on it. Like I said, cut yourself infinite amounts of slack.
Have some compassion and understanding for your situation, realize and accept that you may not play anywhere near as well as you can. Console yourself with the fact that even the worlds great golfers cannot perform normally even they have off course problems.
The fact that you cut yourself infinite slack and forgive yourself ahead of time can often help you to relax a little and this in turn may transfer into a better performance. One thing is for sure, the more angry, frustrated and generally worked up your get, the worse your score will be.
When the numbers on your anger, frustration and tension meters go up, the numbers on your score card correspond accordingly.
Do what you have to do in your life to get sorted out as golf is just a reflection of your life and self image. If your circumstances in life need time to improve, allow your golf the respect of that time too.
Wishing you FIR’s, GIR’s & Blue Skies.