How to Save My Relationship With My Boyfriend – Be Calm and Communicate

After a while the sizzle in every relationship starts to cool down. The romance and passion that the two of you felt before has become less frequent and maybe you even feel like you’re starting to take each other for granted. Worse yet, the two of you may have already broken up, maybe after an ugly fight. The problem is you still have feelings for your boyfriend and you think he still loves you too. All of this can leave you asking “how to save my relationship.”

If you’ve already split up, you need to try to arrange a get-together with him. Let him know it’s so the two of you can mutually try to decide when and how things went wrong and if there would be any hope for the relationship going forward. Assuming the two of you are on speaking terms, he should be up for this idea if he still has any of the feelings you do.

When you see each other start off by apologizing to him. Be sincerely sorry. Even if you think he’s more at fault. How to save my relationship means understanding that this is a very bad time to be blaming each other, because you’re just going to end up in another argument. Besides, the relationship was a two-party affair so both of you bear responsibility for it’s health. So the number one rule right now is not be petty. No blaming and no arguing.

Hopefully the time apart has made the two of you more open communicating, if that’s a problem you were having. So this is a time to express the things you like about each other. Make up a list ahead of time of things you like about him so that you’re prepared to get things going in a positive direction.

As you progress to the point of discussing the problems the two of you had, you have to be mature and listen without reacting or becoming defensive. It’s also vital to smooth over his reactions to what you have to say. If you can keep the emotions to a minimum you might find that your problems were sort of small, and that how to save my relationship is much easier than you thought.

BOLA TANGKAS