Right now you may be thinking that there is no hope for your relationship. Perhaps you are fighting or your spouse has upset you in some way? Or perhaps there is just a loss of passion and excitement in the marriage? Whatever the reason you are not alone in feeling this way, as many couples are going through the same thing as you and are asking the same question – is there hope to save a marriage?
The good news is YES, you can save your marriage and relationship if you know what to do. You already know other people that have worked through their problems and gotten back on track so it’s also possible for you too.
No matter what the reason for the fighting or separation, you need to get some clarity on what problems are in your marriage and why they are there. For example, people don’t fight without an underlying reason; it’s usually to mask feelings of hurt or neglect, especially when you are no longer working as a team together.
Even if you are fighting, for example, over who last did the washing up, really the issue is likely to be that one party is feeling devalued or not appreciated. By looking at the real reasons behind your issue you can often communicate what you need to your partner much better.
Communication, trust and respect are the top three reasons that couples stay together, so instead of focusing on what isn’t working, aim to improve these three key areas.
Communication is often the easiest to repair as all you need to do is find a time to talk with your partner in a friendly, non judgmental way and really listen to what they have to say. Setting a ‘meeting’ or set time to do this is often a good way to get alone time together if your schedules are not matching up.
Trust is a little harder to build but it starts with always being there for your partner. They should be able to predict with some degree of accuracy what you would be doing or where you will be going at any time of the day or night. If they know what you are likely to do, then they will more likely trust you.
Respect is the hardest area to repair but it is the most essential to every happy relationship. Respect has to be earned and it follows on from being trustworthy. If you can gain your partner’s respect then it is very likely that you will have a wonderful future together.
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