It’s easy to start relationship, then hard to maintain it, and painful to leave it. The first blusher of interest and attraction runs the passion that finally leads to commitment. In the middle of a relationship, all the things can go wrong, from communicating unsuccessfully or taking the other person to abuse for example. The breakup is heart pulling for both people, regardless of who started the break up and even when there is good cause to leave. That’s a reason it’s important to take time to heal your relationship. You need right support and resources.
Books are Wonderful Resources
Whether your goal is to mend a broken heart, win an ex back and get back together, or to simply move on with your life, you can be sure that others have traveled the same path. Because a breakup can make you feel lost, it’s extremely helpful to rely on the advice and experiences of others to put you on the path to healing.
For example, if your boyfriend (or girlfriend) left you – and played the blame game in the process – it’s natural to feel unlovable and at fault. Yet, if you look at the situation from the perspective that he or she left because of his or her own dysfunctional psychological issues, you can more clearly see that it’s really not about you, and you can more freely move on with your life.
On the other hand, perhaps you contributed to the break up of the relationship. Perhaps you didn’t express your appreciation and gratitude often enough, or maybe you didn’t give your relationship the priority it deserved. It could be that, instead of tending to your relationship garden, both of you were busy doing other things while the weeds took over. If your heart tells you that your relationship is worth fighting for (not fighting over!), a book can help you navigate the waters of getting back together.
Support is Essential
Few breakups happen overnight, so getting the support you need throughout the process is essential. When it comes to breaking up, help yourself by expressing your feelings and reaching out to others. Writing about your feelings, asking others to listen to you vent, seeking out advice, and reading about the experiences of others are all tools that can help you mourn your loss, regain your sense of self, and move on with your life.
Online Support and Resources
A breakup is one of life’s most momentous events, but the people who are closest to you are often not very objective. After all, they may have their own agendas in pushing you toward one course of action or away from another, or perhaps they care too much to cause you any further pain.
When you go online, though, you can find sites that provide both a wealth of downloadable books and support-oriented discussion boards. Instant access to books can be a lifesaver, and discussing your situation and reading about those of others can give you the one-day-at-a-time approach that will see you though every stage of the breakup process. The best sites even have breakup blogs, where you can journal your thoughts and feelings, and can read others’ stories.
A breakup is extremely difficult, but you don’t have to go it alone. Whether your goal is to mend a broken heart or get back together, find the online support and resources you need.