What Do You See In The Mirror?

Through the ages, our looks have been an instrument through which we funnel our sense of pride, independence and quite often our confidence.  Everybody wants to look their best; it’s perfectly normal.  But what measures would you take to look top notch?

If you were to consult a beautician, they could offer you a skin analysis, and make recommendations about which products would serve you best.  They might suggest how to lighten your skin, erase away freckles, reduce tiny lines around the eyes and maybe even shape your eyebrows.  Perhaps you only went in there wondering how to freshen up your skin and face.  

If you were to consult a cosmetic surgeon, you could discover how much fuller your lips could be.  You might have new cheek bones pencilled in, eyebrows raised and sagging jawlines firmed.  They could offer to shape your body into an hourglass figure, round out your bottom and thin out your thighs.  The possibilities are endless.  Maybe you only went into the office curious about having your nose repaired.  

I could list more examples, from hair stylists to exercise trainers, who will offer you advice to “fix” everything that’s wrong with you.  You can spend your whole life not even knowing or caring that one eyebrow is two millimetres higher than the other, until somebody points out this flaw.  Thank goodness there are experts to tell us where we need improvement.

Beauty truly does come from within.  Be happy with who you are, and let your flaws be the pillars of your personality.  This is not a Barbie doll world we live in, where everyone looks, talks, dresses and acts exactly the same.  Diversity is what makes us whole, and ultimately beautiful.

So don’t get bullied into an endless series of perfections, because once you start making a list, you’ll find it’s never ending.  There will always be something you admire in others that you don’t have for yourself.  Too many procedures can result in disaster, with botched surgeries, damaged skin and nerves and deformed bodies and faces.  

It’s okay to want to correct the areas that really bother you.  But during your consultation, keep in mind that the person offering you advice, gets paid for each treatment or procedure.  It’s their job to offer you recommendations, but that doesn’t mean you actually need the work they suggest.  Keep in mind who you are, and don’t let yourself become a plastic person, pushed along by the will of others.  Beauty, after all, is in the eye of the beholder.  It doesn’t matter what others see, only what you see when you look in the mirror that counts.

BOLA TANGKAS