Why I Don?t Date Thailand Bar Girls

Thailand is a magical place, the beaches, warm climate, unique culture, great food and beautiful women. It’s easy to see how a visitor in Thailand may think that he has found paradise at last. Every years, thousands and thousands of Western men return home from a holiday in Thailand wanting to return as fast as possible. Many times, the reason for this is a woman, and more often than not it’s a bar girl who has put a spell on him. Sometimes, everything works out and the couple live happily ever after, but in other instances, cultural differences and mistaken expectations lead to nasty breakups. Over the years, I’ve seen many Thai-Farang relationships. Those that lasted were generally not those who began in a bar.

There’s nothing wrong with meeting your Thai sweetheart in a bar, I mean, that happens all the time back home, but I think there are good reasons to be vary before entering into a serious relationship with a ‘bar girl’.

I am not one of those people who think that Thai women working in a bar are necessarily ‘bad’ or only out for money, far from it actually, but I do think that their lifestyle may present some problems in the long run.

Picture this: A young, attractive girl from the countryside goes to work in a bar. She’s never been out of the village before, let alone met any foreigners. Her daily life probably consisted of working in a rice paddy or falling asleep at some menial and boring job. Then she comes to Bangkok or Pattaya, with her head full of dreams and hopes. What she finds is a place where the neon lights are bright, every day is a party, drinking, sleeping until noon and then starting over.

For a young inexperienced girl anywhere, that kind of lifestyle has to be exciting. So, you see, when she meets you in a bar, is she really looking to settle down with a guy who is often significantly older than her?

Even if she is, is she ready to leave the easy work and big money behind and start working in a 9-5 job again? Leave her new friends and be the perfect stay at home wife? Most likely not.

The bar scene attracts a certain type on both sides of the equation. If you’re looking for a nice Thai woman to settle down with and eventually marry, then I recommend looking elsewhere.

Take a walk down any street in Thailand; do you notice at least one girl sending you a shy look, maybe a smile? Maybe you don’t, cause we as Westerners are not in tune th the subtle signals Thai women send to men they are interested in. Don’t expect a ‘good’ Thai girl to make the first step.

That’s why I generally tell my friend to meet Thai women online first.

You’d be amazed how many Thai women are interested in meeting you. And it’s definitely not only bar girls. Most of the time, the women you meet online are smart, educated women who want the freedom and stability a foreign man can provide. Believe it or not, Westerners still have a good reputation in Thailand.

So, go for it, sign up for a dating site and see what happens! You really have nothing to lose!

BOLA TANGKAS