When you break up with your ex girlfriend, all sorts of emotions and thoughts are flying into your head. Did I do something wrong? What could I have done differently? You can feel lost, and tend to replay the conversation over and over again, as if it would make any difference what you said. The truth of the matter is this: your break up was awhile coming, and happened because of a series of events. I sincerely recommend that you try to get to the bottom of the reason for your break up, because it will make this process that much easier.
First, you need to stop the pain of the break up dead in it’s tracks. Get your feelings off your chest, and talk to someone who you can trust. Or, my personal favorite, go to the bar and talk to a total stranger who has it 10 times worse than you. This ALWAYS make me feel better… bar none (don’t look at me that way…). No, but I’m serious, I heard a great line the other day… if we all threw our problems into a pile and see what everyone else’s were… we’d be scrambling to take ours back.
So accept your problem, and be thankful for your health and the life you lead. But realize that if you want her back, then it’s time for a change. This is why you need to figure out what went WRONG, so you can FIX it. Women don’t hold anything back when it comes to their words,and she likely told you all along that she wasn’t happy. She may have done it subtly, but if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll realize that some of the things she said were TRUE. I know this made ME uncomfortable to admit, but admitting that there is a problem is the first step to solving it.
Lastly, you need to find a balance. When you communicate with her, it’s important that you don’t come off as a desperate pansy… but you also don’t want to come off as an arrogant prick. Excuse my language, but these are words that I have had said straight to my face, so I would like to think I know what I am talking about, haha.
So let’s break that down… yes women want sensitive men, who understand their feelings, right? Yeah, sure, whatever. She actually just wants you to listen to her, but you can make your case. And as far as being confident goes… you need to not go overboard. Still treat her with respect. But if there’s one thing men need to know, is that it’s OK to have feelings and emotions. A lot of relationship “gurus” will tell you to MAN UP, BE A MAN, and stuff like that. Well, men cry too…
The reason I bring that up is that I’ve found one of the most effective ways to get your girlfriend to reconsider the break up IMMEDIATELY after she just broke up with you, is to let your emotions out. If it makes you want to cry, don’t hold back. She will see that true emotion, and think twice. But after that, if it doesn’t work, it’s time to become self-confident again. Even if it DOES work, it’s still time to become self-confident again. You need to go that one extra mile to improving yourself for the best.